Of Blacks, Whites and Grays
Spent the whole weekend trying to talk sense to a friend. Apparently he has love problems. And to the curious, no. I'm not going to disclose his story in this blog. Instead I've decided to write about my thoughts during the weekend.
Some of us decide on things using only two methods. For the hopeful and the safe-minded, gray areas of decision are common ground. Thinking about all aspects of emotions, possibilities, and strategies. Weighing advantages, disadvantages and then coming to a conclusion. Giving space to everyone involved, worthy or not.
And if all else fails.
We switch to black and white. An ultimatum of sorts. A more tangible manner of deciding the fate of the problem usually done within a duration. A deadline. A limit. Depending mostly on a thought-out sign of escape or pointless end.
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People also have certain types of attitude towards grabbing energy (emotions, strength) from others. Narrowing it down to three popular types, thanks to James Redfield author of 10th Insight.
• The Detective - Where people ask a lot of questions that will selfishly satisfy his own desires, thereby centering the attention to himself.
• The Martyr - This kind vocalizes how he has sacrificed so much and gets very little in return, they usually grab the "oh kawawa ka naman" reactions.
• The Bully - Injecting himself into anything and aggressively pushing his own ideas or thoughts even when not asked.
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Unanswered thoughts:
How much is too much in a relationship?
When we keep something for ourselves, does it mean time? money? or emotions?
Is it right to hold on to a person or to let them go? If holding on to a person means you love them and if letting them go also means you love them?
Which would be more important to a relationship: respect or trust? Or should it come at the same time?
Is sex proof of love? Does it matter?
Are humans capable of giving unconditional love?
Some of us decide on things using only two methods. For the hopeful and the safe-minded, gray areas of decision are common ground. Thinking about all aspects of emotions, possibilities, and strategies. Weighing advantages, disadvantages and then coming to a conclusion. Giving space to everyone involved, worthy or not.
And if all else fails.
We switch to black and white. An ultimatum of sorts. A more tangible manner of deciding the fate of the problem usually done within a duration. A deadline. A limit. Depending mostly on a thought-out sign of escape or pointless end.
***
People also have certain types of attitude towards grabbing energy (emotions, strength) from others. Narrowing it down to three popular types, thanks to James Redfield author of 10th Insight.
• The Detective - Where people ask a lot of questions that will selfishly satisfy his own desires, thereby centering the attention to himself.
• The Martyr - This kind vocalizes how he has sacrificed so much and gets very little in return, they usually grab the "oh kawawa ka naman" reactions.
• The Bully - Injecting himself into anything and aggressively pushing his own ideas or thoughts even when not asked.
***
Unanswered thoughts:
How much is too much in a relationship?
When we keep something for ourselves, does it mean time? money? or emotions?
Is it right to hold on to a person or to let them go? If holding on to a person means you love them and if letting them go also means you love them?
Which would be more important to a relationship: respect or trust? Or should it come at the same time?
Is sex proof of love? Does it matter?
Are humans capable of giving unconditional love?